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The Taboo

A girl walks on the road wearing a long dress that fits her snugly.

A second girl looks at her clothes longingly, mentally comparing it with her own loose, unflattering clothes.

An old man ogles, his eyes resting in places they shouldn’t. A young guy wolf-whistles, while another touches her backside ‘accidently’.

So, a couple of old women begin gossiping among themselves about the vices of unashamed modern girls who invite rapists to themselves.

The second girl groans inwardly, hiding her longing to be free to dress…

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I am an Instructional Designer, avid reader, small-town woman and working mother with a fish-eye perspective. I have just published my first book, The Forest Bed and other short stories. If you like my stories on this blog, feel free to Like, Comment, Reblog and Share. You can reach me at shailygrwl@gmail.com or through my Facebook page facebook.com/shailyagrawalwrites/

23 thoughts on “The Taboo

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  2. Great post Shaily. Crazy that a woman has to fear what a man may think, let alone do because of what she chooses to wear. Even worse that women actually live in fear. We have had lots of time boys, time to sort ourselves out huh?

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    1. Thanks Colin. I think it is a cultural thing. Most of us are trying to teach girls to be confident unlike old days. but we aren’t teaching our boys to be treat women with respect. most men grow up watching their fathers abuse their mothers. they wouldn’t know better

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  3. Sad but true. Apart from walking around covered in a burka, and with mace spray and a knuckle duster in their handbags, there’s no way for women to avoid unwanted attention from men. I was always told by my parents to dress sensibly and avoid being out on my own at night, advice I’ve always stuck to. So far so good, and I’m not far off 64.

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    1. Unfortunately it goes beyond one religion. In India, a melting pot for too many religions and races to count, all woman are supposed to wear unflattering dresses so that they don’t “provoke” men. If they wear a form-fitting dress, regardless of length, they are ogled at, pinched on the roads, gossiped about, and considered sluts. Nobody even remotely considers that even if she is a slut, men can simply look away. And they don’t. The victim is called the perpetrator of crime.

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      1. Unfortunately, reporting is faced with retaliation. The Police force has better things to do than catch the one thousand people leering at and touching women…and then families tell you to dress sensibly too

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    2. I tried dressing in long skirts and T-shirts but my father stopped me. He wouldn’t let me open the door without a dupatta. And I can see his point too. Dressing to be one with background was my only defence.

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    1. No Pete! I think, most men world over have to deep dive internally to find humility and respect for individual.
      It is not about the dress but the attitude of society. If I cannot walk out without a dupatta, it is because most men don’t know how to avert their eyes. If I cannot drink alcohol, it is because men think all women who drink are sluts. It is not something a woman can fix. It is the mountain that men have to climb.

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    1. Thank you, Don! We have several COVID cases in the family but thankfully everyone is on the road to recovery. It is scary though. Too many people of all ages are dying. We lost colleagues and neighbours. The medical system has broken down completely. All we have to carry us through this tough time is faith.

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    1. Thanks John. It is more about the society’s gender bias. A man in India can get away with anything. Nobody blames him. while women watch their step, their dress, their words, their gestures at the pain of being classed as “those women”.

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