In all relations, I keep myself slightly aloof. I try not to talk very often or discuss pain because I can’t sympathize…
I empathize.
With people I really care about, once I begin to feel their pain, I feel it as my own…until I cannot separate the borrowed pain from my own feelings. Gradually, it begins to push me under and I struggle to keep floating and breathing. Eventually, I drown in a pain not my own and am unable to resurface until I open the floodgates or someone fishes me out.
I prefer to not drown.
So, if you find me impassive and aloof, now you know why.
Short Stories | Fish-eye Perspective 
I can understand why you need to stay aloof —
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you have shifted around a lot; I can understand your desire to stay aloof 🙂
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Thanks John! I’m afraid to make strong connections. They hurt twice over–the pain of feeling their pain and the pain of leaving them behind to fight their demons alone.
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you have explained that very well 🙂
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How’s the collection of short stories coming ?
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Hi Ngozi. The work was finished in January. I am awaiting a long holiday to deal with epub-ing and Marketing! 😁 I’m planning to go the Kindle way.
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💥💥awesome! I like to see bloggers publish their works. Some monetary reward for all that writing, proofreading and rewriting.
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I see. I understand. I get overly emotional about things.
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Thanks Ngozi. It is one thing to be an emotional person. I’m not. I pretty in-control that way. The problem is that the emotions of others affect me very strongly. I can be very angry, very happy, very sad simply because my company is so. It is not normal nor healthy.
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Waw, this is tough. Can it be described in a word or a phrase?
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Extreme Empathy
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Hmm, okay.
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I cannot imagine you being aloof, but understand why you might want to be.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I try to stay aloof as long as I can. I have lived in 25 houses, attended 11 schools/colleges and worked 7 jobs, still I can count people I’m close to on fingers of one hand. I keep aloofness even in closest relations.
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I resonate with this completely. 🙂 ~WB
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Hey, WB! It’s good to find someone who can empathize.
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